When my sister and I were young, we used to make fun of our baby brother who sucked his finger religiously. Morning, noon and night, that finger was in his mouth. It was so bad, that his finger stunk and had a fat callus on it. It was bad! My grandmother always threatened to put his finger in dog poop to motivate him to stop. She never did but it was worth the shot. What she did do was place his finger in a jar of bitter aloes (which was a Jamaican remedy). As the name suggests, that thing was bitter as ever. The taste lingered in your mouth for days. After my brother tasted that bitterness, his days of finger sucking ended. That finger was now a bitter element in his life and he let finger sucking go that very same moment.
We laughed at the time but as I now reflect on it, an object lesson can be learned.
Bitterness -sharpness of taste; lack of sweetness, anger and disappointment at being treated unfairly; resentment (Merriam-Webster)
Are you bitter?
Are you holding on to something in your life that tears you down mentally, spiritually, physically, and socially? Bitter.
Are you harboring a grudge that leaves you angry every time you see that individual(s)? Bitter.
Are you taking steps backwards or living stagnant, bound by meaningless chains? Bitter.
Are there people in your life that bring out the worst in you? Bitter.
Do you feel as if you’re always cheated out of what is rightfully yours? Bitter.
All of these things represent bitterness in our lives. Bitterness brings out the worst in us. Bitterness is that cloud that blocks the warmth of the sun, the extinguisher that puts out the fire even before it’s lit, the worm embedded in the sweetest apple.
Bitterness affects your atmosphere. It affects your relationships, friendships, and marriages.
Bitterness is a destructive element that must be eradicated from our lives.
Bitterness. It sucks you dry, depletes you, leaves you with nothing but emptiness, loneliness, and sadness.
Just as my brother tasted that bitter hollows and immediately did what he had to do in order to never experience that again, it’s time for us to do what we have to do to eliminate bitterness from our lives.
Is there someone you need to forgive?
Yes the hurt was immense, even debilitating, but its time to forgive so you can be released from the bitterness and pain that enshrouds your life. Whether or not they are sorry is beyond your control but forgiveness will set you free.
“Holding bitterness and not forgiving is like placing sulfuric acid in a tin can. It will eventually destroy the can from the inside, i.e. – it does more damage to you then anyone else, including the person originally at fault.” – Hopeton Thomas
Is there a situation you need to separate yourself from?
Change is difficult and sometimes we would rather stay in our misery and pain than to move away from it and start afresh. Don’t be afraid to move forward and leave the past behind.
As told in the story of Sodom and Gomorrah, one woman did not want to let go of her past life that served no good purpose for her and in staying in her place of “bitterness” (living in a destructive place) she became stagnant (pillar of salt). She was no longer able to make an impact.
Is there an opportunity that awaits you, and all you have to do is take that step forward, but feelings of poor self-worth, low self-esteem and comparing yourself to someone else holding you back?
You have a purpose and you were created to make an impact! Don’t let bitterness get in your way.
As noted in the lyrics sung by Jessica Reedy
“I used to be so broken, lost, empty.
A heart with no beat.
A singer with no song to sing.
So I know the feeling
The silence is deafening
But in your pain lies a blessing
A sweeter song of victory
So keep walking, walking, walking
Though it seems so far.
No matter who you are
See, there is one thing that I know
Life it can leave, you so bitter, bitter, bitter, bitter
But you must believe
That it gets better, better, better, better”.
Whatever the source of your bitterness it’s time to let go because it CAN get better.
Things will get better. It’s not as easy road but freedom is only a decision away. Today make that choice.
Get rid of the bitter and your life will get better!
– Candace Mezetin